self-attuned, Regulated & Embodied
We're all complex. We've got a lot of different parts to who we are. Integrating the past (even if it's painful) and capacitating ourselves to restore our full neural potential for intimacy, creativity, abundance, peace, leadership (of self and others) and fulfillment is possible with self-attunement and developing high-level skills in attuning to others.
Attunement Skills Bring Secure Relating
Experience relating (in all 8 facets of intimacy, across all 7 levels) without co-dependency, extreme activation, past patterns of self-evading, harming self/others, anything insecure relating whether anxious, avoidant or disorganized. Communicate in a way that influences powerfully, and empowers others.
Truly Effective Leaders are Highly-Attuned
Not having access to, let alone possession and mastery of all the sources of energy & information available to a person is severely limiting. It causes a very predictable set of patterns and behavioral styles in leadership, they are quite harmful to efficiency, bottom line and contribution/effect. We must live into, and thus demand, attuned leaders.
What even is attunement?
The most valuable question you didn’t even realize to ask.
How would you define love? Not an easy thing to do in a sentence. Attunement is similar, although compared to love, it’s a lot less challenging. The two are related though, attunement is like harnessing the power of love. Thanks to modern neuroscience, particularly interpersonal neurobiolgy (IPNB), we’re able to connect the dots on something that previous wisdom traditions and philosophy seemed to point to better than science. Now though, we’re seeing an integration like never before. It allows us to take a leap forward in our ability to exist, thrive, cooperate and connect without undue protection, aggression and fight for survival that has us misdirected, misattuned and dysregulated.
Chronic, compounding and unintegrated misattunement helps explain how we got to where we are in so many ways. Our systems (from our bodies, our minds, our social structures to our businesses) need to experience & express attunement.
It’s a cycle of flowing, repairing misattunement for integration and resilience gives us a strength and power we wouldn’t otherwise have had. This is what some people refer to as post-traumatic growth, or so it seems.
Whether relating to attachment, bonding, agency, certainty, neurology, intelligence, universal human needs, power dynamics, relating, creating… harming ourselves and others, or uplifting and capacitating each other… you’ll run into attunement and misattunement.
These organizing principles, practices, patterns and pathways weave like an invisible thread through and across disciplines ranging from psychology, human development, history, anthropology and sociology, to even quantum physics, communications and economics.
A person does not have to get undergrad level degrees in all these subjects to see these connections, and harness this power personally and professionally. It does take a little bit of learning though, before it all clicks into place.
Why develop attunement?
To leave behind insecure relating. To be a caregiver, to equip your children and grandchildren with the ultimate generational wealth. To heal ancestral trauma. To exist under the systems of harm, what we call the “Misattuned Harm Complex,” that is corrupting our health, our identities, and our collective nervous systems.
Strengthening attunement with Dan Siegel's WHEEL OF AWARENESS
